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she contributes



she contributes two


Proverb 31: 19 She’s skilled in the crafts of home and hearth, diligent in homemaking.

If any book shows us the partnership in a household, it is the book of proverbs. A quick read of the verse above and you would think the writer is confining one party to the domestic duties in the home and the other to the real work in the marketplace. A much broader read and look, shows a woman who is savvy in all forms of business, who contributes significantly to her household and is deeply involved in all affairs including business and finance.

She is a maker.

She is a hard worker.

She contributes significantly to the overall wellbeing of her brood.

Before I became a Mum, I had so many lofty ideas of what it meant to be a ‘stay at home mum’. Before I had children, I would have clearly told you I would be going back to work after 6 months of being with my baby and had such strong opinions of what marriage partnership looked like.

Enter reality.

After six months of being home with my little boy, I knew I was not meant to go back to work and I needed to reform all those impressions of what marriage and motherhood looked like, reforming essentially the very core of my identity.

I realised that novice motherhood completely turned my worth and value ideals upside down and I had to reform my sense of self, outside of my career. These last few years have been the most revealing and the hardest days of my life.

Am I glad I faced these dark crevices of my soul though?


I have come out of this novice season, realising that yes my worth is founded in so much more than what I do, but at the same time, I am deeply satisfied when I bring wisdom and contribution to places and people outside of my home.

I love to contribute.

I love to feel like I am part of a bigger story.

Every time I write, knit, sew, paint, teach, mentor, create, I feel deeply satisfied, because the journey of making something from not much is deeply ingrained in the way that we as women communicate.

We process as we make.

We focus as we create.

We connect our thoughts to our kinaesthetic touch when we create.

We contribute significantly.

Although I often look at this website hoping it could be so much more, I think about my photos, I grieve my grammar, I long for hours of quiet writing and moments of deep contemplation without a child scaling my thighs, I know a day will come when I will look back at these days and know they were transformative because I have surrendered to their anonymity.

Whether you are a working mum, who is doing her very best to provide for the needs of her household or a mum who is mostly at home, finding ways to contribute significantly beyond, it deeply changes our perspective and outlook.

You were born to contribute.

Your were designed to work hard and bring your best to inspire others.

Every time we see our purpose connected with another, we live a life that is deeply satisfying.

Are you feeling unsatisfied?

Maybe reviewing and refining the way you are contributing to others and your household, will realign your sense of perspective and help you see ways that you can live more engaged in your season.

Speak tomorrow,





Day Six click here: She smiles at the future


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she can do hard things…

Proverbs doing hard things

Proverb 31: 8-9

“Speak up for the people who have no voice, for the rights of all the down-and-outers.

Speak out for justice!

Stand up for the poor and destitute!”

One day as I lined up in ‘Subway’ to casually grab some lunch, the man in front of me was berating the girl serving us because they had a ‘change for good’ collection tin for an overseas charity. The funny part of the story, is the organisation that he was yelling about I was a part of. I knew the leaders, I knew where the money went, I saw the changed lives.

I stood behind him listening to his rant, how all this organisation wanted was people’s money and it never went to the people they promised to and how he couldn’t believe that Subway supported them. I had a brave choice. I either let the young girl tremble under the forced opinion and bullying of an older man or I spoke up.

Soon he had his sandwich in hand and turned to walk out, I said loudly (so the rest of the line could hear) “Excuse me sir, I work for the organisation you have a problem with can we step outside and have a chat. I can answer every question you have and also dispute the lies you have just been sharing.”


What a scary moment. I could have stayed anonymous. I could have let that young girl shiver.

But I didn’t.

I wasn’t aggressive. I wasn’t defensive. I asked calmly if we could chat outside.

And that we did.

Have you ever been in a situation where someone is speaking badly about someone or something you love?

Have you ever been in a situation where you don’t want to step in but you know if you don’t the moment would have passed with injustice?

A woman of wisdom does hard things.

She calls the person whom she has offended.

She speaks on behalf of those who aren’t present.

But she does it with wisdom.

She is still kind.

She is full of grace.

But she does hard things.

The only way I had the confidence and courage to approach an angry man, is because I was sure of who I was and what I stood for. A woman of wisdom continually seeks confirmation of her identity from the right things and also reaffirms what it is that she stands for. I believed deeply in the vision and values of the organisation that was being slammed but also I knew the people personally who this man was criticising.

You too can do hard things.

I know you can.

What is something that needs to be addressed in this season?

I truly believe you can do hard things…





Day four click here: She rises

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she finds focus


Just this last Sunday, my husband and I were sitting in church and as I listened (intently, of course) he leaned over and whispered, “I think we have both become a little ADHD.”

I smiled, but I knew what he was referring too. We were both sitting listening to the sermon, flicking between instagram, facebook, smiling at a friend three rows away, checking the news on twitter and of course listening to the speaker (intently, of course). My husband is in the midst of launching a new not for profit business, on top of his full time job, I have my hands in a few big, juicy pies and we live distracted.

We want to work hard and live a life of contribution but at the same time we just don’t want to be those people who are a bit of everything, but masters of none. I know that women are supposed to be better multi-taskers but I am realising I can do a few things okay or I can truly focus and do one thing well.

Proverb 4: 25 Keep your eyes focused on what is right, and look straight ahead to what is good.

How focused do you feel at the moment?

What helps you to decide what you need to give your attention to?

“You can do two things at once, but you can’t focus effectively on two things at once.” Gary Keller

Wisdom calls us to focus on that which is in our hand and look intently at the opportunities in the future. To live a life of influence, it means we do stretch and we do give significantly and there are seasons of carrying responsibility intensely but there are times that we need to actively focus on the now.

We can spend all our time in our head in the future, we can spend all our energy on the past, but a woman of wisdom focusses on the days in front of her and peacefully leans into their potential.

If you are sitting at the dinner table with a  group of friends or family, put your phone away.

If you are in an auditorium listening to a speaker, lean in and put your distractions away.

If you are in a conversation with someone listen to them before you spend time planning on what your reply is.


A woman of wisdom, learns to live focused.

Deep breath, this is the kind of person I want to become.

How about you?





To read Day Three click here: She can do hard things

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she is kind



Proverb Eighteen;

2 Fools care nothing for thoughtful discourse;
    all they do is run off at the mouth.

When wickedness arrives, shame’s not far behind;
    contempt for life is contemptible.

Many words rush along like rivers in flood,
    but deep wisdom flows up from artesian springs.

Social media and it’s online culture has been overwhelming me lately. To the point where I have considered carefully what I want to say and where I need to stay actively silent, not necessarily because I agree or disagree, but I refuse to debate in a forum that is so destructive.


They are so powerful.

The wisest women I know are measured by their words.

I am a verbal processor. I normally find my answers mid conversation or mid page of journalling. I process, I think, I debate, I discuss, I listen and I am enamoured with words.

Lately I have been learning however, the more I speak, the more I write, the more I am accountable to the weight of my words.

Whether we type them, speak them or text them, every word we form has power.

Do your words rush out like an out of control flooding river?

Or do they well up like an artisan spring filtered with layer upon layer of wisdom.

The more I see people shout from their keyboards, the more I wonder if they would say the same thing if they were seated on a platform in front of thousands. There is nothing like a crowd, a pulpit or a platform that helps us distill the depth and passion of our opinions.

How easy is it to debate online passionately, then when we see that person in flesh we shrink away with not much to say?


It is an ethical disposition, that asks us to place ourselves in the shoes of another before we act or speak.

What if kindness became the filter before we responded?

What if we were known by our words and how kind they were to another?

Kindness doesn’t mean we water down the truth, in fact the kindest thing we can do often is speak the truth, but filtered with wisdom.

I honestly don’t judge people by the percentage that we disagree on, but by the smaller percentage of what we do agree upon.

Proverb 31 is forming my devotional every day of July says this…

When she speaks she has something worthwhile to say, and she always says it kindly.

My goal this July, is to measure my words by this filter of wisdom.

1) Is what I am saying worthwhile?

2) Am I being kind?

If only we all stopped before we spoke, I believe the world would be a much healthier place.





To read Day Two click here: She Finds Focus