I used to think that love was birthed in grand gestures. You know the ones that hollywood blockbusters are made of. The banners sweeping across the sky, the first red rose and the unexpected gifts tied with a white ribbon, in the tone of duck egg blue.
These days I count the gifts that multiply by the thousand and they are all minuscule and inconsequential. I believe that love is made up by small things often, not the crazy online declarations of love and this year I am endeavouring to remind myself to continue to do small things often for my spouse rather than waiting for the special days to declare my feelings.
Small Things like;
Asking if there is anything I can do to help.
Putting my phone down when he talks.
Asking how his day was and then listening.
Cups of tea on the bedside.
Putting clothes away with no grumbling.
Waiting before I speak.
Clinging to what is good.
Sending text messages acknowledging how hard he works.
Waiting till he comes home to eat dinner together.
Noticing.
Holding hands.
Slowing down so we can walk together.
A glass of water.
A smile for no reason.
They all seem like inconsequential details, that maybe you have down pat. For me however, I am remembering that hundreds of details, create a safety net of love. And they build trust more than any big gesture ever could.
The bonus as well is this…
Every time I focus on the small things I bring to create love and respect in my marriage, I am reminded of all the small things he does everyday for me.
This year I am leaning into the small things that bring gratitude to my everyday.
How about you?
What are you bringing intention to this year?
Amanda
This is a part of my new year season called 2019 Manifesto. You can read the whole series here.
Perfect! Best marriage advice ever. Xxx
Yes! I love this. The small everyday things are so precious. I love your words for this – ‘they create a safety net of love’ – you express the feeling and reality perfectly. Thanks for sharing these beautiful thoughts!