Learning to love me better

#dateyoselfie

“Beauty is when you can appreciate yourself. When you love yourself, that’s when you’re most beautiful.”

Zoe Kravitz

Motherhood has the capacity to silence you like nothing else. As February unfolds I have realised that there is a whole heap of pent-up emotion from dealing with negotiating toddlers and children for weeks upon end. We are fresh out of school holidays here and I am fresh out of perspective.

As I look out across my week it would be easy for me to blame everyone else for the way I feel. Expectations unmet, time poor and emotions unravelled.

The only person I can turn the camera onto is myself. We cannot change others and unless we learn to communicate our needs and breathe in deep the trust gap we will be constantly disappointed.

Then enter Valentines Day. Am I loved? Who cares about me? Will I be noticed?

As we step into the week of valentines it is easy to have unmet expectations from our partners. One of the best things you can do for your relationship is to learn to love yourself better.

We need to learn to love us!

We need to find our voice to discover our needs!

We need to explore what makes us smile!

If you can learn to love yourself and all the flaws, you can love other people so much better. And that makes you so happy.

Kristin Chenoweth

Many years, especially when I was single I often found myself in a space where my expectations remained unmet. Unfortunately, we can carry the disappointment of these seasons into our present reality and we become our own worst enemy. Dear Single Self, helped me unpack those expectations and discover a way to date myself.

The way that we speak to ourselves, the walls we build in our relationships and the unspoken disappointment.

Here are six lessons I have learnt about loving myself better.

6 tips for learning to love yourself better

  1. Be willing to feel pain and take responsibility for your feelings.

  2. Sit in a place of growth, allowing yourself to learn.

  3. Journal to find what you are telling yourself that is not true.

  4. Chat with a friend to discover what makes you smile.

  5. Make time to do what you learnt in step 4.

  6. Celebrate your growth and note your growth leaps.

I’d love to chat more with you over in my online facebook group “Your Goals with Amanda Viviers”. Let’s help one another to date ourselves and love the closest person to us; you.

Amanda Viviers