17. Burn the list.
What are the traits or characteristics you have looked for in a partner?
I think there was a teaching that went around a few years ago that told us to write a list and pray, hope, beg that person into being. I have realised in my own experience that this is really unhelpful.
I am challenging you to burn the list.
Not literally (although maybe you have it written down somewhere), but find a way to explore the possibility of a person being perfect for you who may never tick all the bullet points on your list.
Then write one word.
Just one word that is not negotiable.
Mine was kind.
What is yours?