I have a friend her name is Anne. She is wise, and one could say very safe. She makes me laugh as often I feel like a “bull in a china shop”, and she is more like a swan gliding through the lake called life.
I met her many, many years ago but it has only been the last few years, that I have gotten to know her better. There is this question that she asks me all the time that has completely changed the way I make decisions.
“Amanda, how does it make you feel?”
You see I’ve always been ashamed of my emotions when I was told over and over that I am too emotional, too loud, too much, too strong, too opinionated and forthright.
And maybe, sometimes there have been seasons where I have been this and more. But the funny thing I am learning from Anne is this;
The more I ignore my internal emotional temperature (my feelings), the louder my emotions become. Then the more I listen as a leader intuitively to my body and how it feels the quieter and peaceful I become.
I wonder how curious you are about your emotions?
The thing I have learnt lately is that making a decision when I listen to my body when I listen to the small voice within; it is often a quick no for my best yes. This week I have had to say some hard no’s. Rather than making decisions out of obligation, I am making decisions out of joy.
The second thing I am learning is when I listen to myself more than others…When I listen to my body when I am making decisions, my intuitions, my internal emotional gauge grows. It is a confirmation to my mapping system that tells me that listening to myself means I can be trusted. When I listen to my body, when I am making decisions, my intuition and ability to listen first and foremost to God and secondly to people grow.
A quick no, for a best yes.
A quick no to obligations for my best yes to my purpose.
A quick no to people for my best yes to my family.
A quick no to social media and notifications for my best yes to meditation and prayer.
A quick no to screen scrolling and binge-watching television for my best yes to my writing page.
Next time you have the opportunity to make a decision ask yourself this question;
How does my body feel about this?
What SHOULD I do?
Living out of obligation means you are losing the opportunity to say your best yes!
This excerpt is a part out of my series 2019 manifesto
My latest book EMBRACING SLOW can be found here. It is a series of devotionals created to help you say no to busy and step into the greatness of a full life.