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create your own path

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MAXIMUS & LIBERTY = strength &  freedom

It’s easy to copy what other people are doing. We live in an age where there is so much opportunity and information at our finger tips. This is both a blessing and a curse. The curse I have found is that we live our lives trying to replicate someone else’s show reel, ending up with a Pinterest fail kinda life, rather than take our own unique stories and creating our own path.

Here is some of my husband (Chief Dreamer of Maximus and Liberty’s) story.

Charl Viviers grew up in South Africa. He saw poverty, violence and societal decay most days of his life. He tells a story about when their family shifted to a seaside town in South Africa to help his little brothers Asthma and health. He remembers vividly making a declaration to himself that one day, he would live by the sea with his family and spend his days surfing and running the beach.

Enter my story.

I grew up in a seaside town in Perth, Western Australia. The problem is, because I grew up here I took it for granted and couldn’t wait to shift away. I did everything I could to escape the mundane of its bogan culture. I travelled, I created a life in the Metropolis of Perth City. I was going places. Anywhere away from the small mindedness of my town. As years grew and my passport filled, every time I visited my families home, I started to become increasingly aware, that everything I was looking for could be found in this little village of penguins, dolphins, beaches and community.

I bought a holiday home.

Maybe I could just return here for rest.

The week that I got my keys to my new little abode, was the week I starting dating my now husband.your path

Little did we both know that the seaside dream, was unfolding before our eyes. The purpose, the destiny was too big for our hearts to handle. But our future smiled, our legacy had a twinkle in its eyes. The time was waiting to be revealed and find it’s purpose.

My husband Charl shifted to Australia, via New Zealand all the way from South Africa to surf. He had heard that the surf was brilliant, the opportunities were a plenty and he came with not much more than a back pack and a small amount of cash.

Here we are years upon years later, with an email telling us our surf boards, stand up paddle boards, fins and so much more are on a ship on their way to Western Australia, ready to help us set up our new not for profit business with the end aim of legacy awaiting.

We are carving our own unique path that has been shaped and guided by years of back story. Together we are taking our unique passions and building something that we have dreamed of.

What is your unique?

What is the path that is asking to be walked?

It is not the same path as someone else, every moment of it will be completely different.

But my dear friend, whenever you risk and step out into the unknown you grow.

You are changed.

You become a version of the person you were always destined to become.

Carve a new path my friend.

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finding your unique legacy

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pay it forward

Last week went a little crazy. I must have been extremely bored, but sitting in the emergency department, wading through facebook looking for anything I could to distract me from the circumstance I found myself in.

I said a quick yes.

I said yes to something I wouldn’t normally even read properly.

I said a yes, without really thinking too much about the consequences.

I said yes to a little pay it forward book game. Where you buy one book and then you ask six friends to do the same. And then 36 of your friends friends, buy your little person a book, then the movement continues.

As I posted on my facebook asking friends to join in the little game, I didn’t expect the avalanche that followed. Also no one knew that I was answering all the facebook messages and comments from a hospital bed.

It all went a little mental. People not wanting to give someone their address, people questioning how it could work and how it was a pyramid scheme. People ranting. People raving and the experts in social sensitivities gave all their opinions.

I was laughing.

A simple yes, sending a book to a little person in New South Wales, that I will never meet, ended in this.

I was stunned.

I was overwhelmed that we have become so cautious, that even a little fun game, became so sinister, every person expecting another to do the worst.

What surprised me the most, was the assumption that the world is essentially bad. That our world will take our personal information and take from us. That every person has a bad intention for our family and friends.

I however believe the complete opposite. I believe that in the end, good wins. I believe that there is nothing, absolutely nothing anyone can do to my family and I, that will rob us of our belief in the good of humanity. I believe that people essentially are out to bring kindness and pay love forward, not the opposite.

Today, the postman came and three unexpected books fell out of his arms into my three year olds open embrace. He yelled thank you in excitement from postman pat and I unwrapped his books to devour. Three beautiful books bought for us from strangers we will never meet or know. Three little unique opportunities to spark inspiration in a young persons mind.

The lesson I learnt from this little social experiment will be long lasting. Whether I get thirty six books or three, I am so glad that I trusted someone I will never meet and they took the time and effort to send a book smile to my little man.

It’s exactly the same with the creative legacy we are creating with our new surf brand. We won’t know the kids that our surfboards, money, opportunities will get too. We will need to trust that the program directors and the people in charge of the accounts that we give money to, will use our money with wisdom.

Essentially though we believe in the greater good. So what if someone doesn’t play by the rules, we are stepping out in a culture of mistrust, compassion fatigue and cynicism to leave a legacy of hope. A legacy that teaches our children the power of paying it forward and indeed it is so much more blessed indeed to give than to get.

Every time they hear about the word legacy, they will know that it is creating a unique stamp on this world and trusting that a stranger will do their best, within their frame of reference to make great use of what we have given in faith.

What is your unique legacy?

Do you believe essentially that people are bad or good?

What can you creatively give to the world that makes it a better place?

I stumbled across a 100 day creative challenge today, that I am going to give it a go. To finish off the year and my pursuit through the hashtag #inspire15 to do something small everyday to stay inspired and creatively engage.

Join me and thousands of others,

Live beyond yourself and leave a unique legacy that lasts.

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coming home

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I have a memory from my childhood that is so strong I could explain to you every smell, piece of furniture and deeply felt emotion. When I was five, I was in year one at school, one term in and I fell very sick. So sick that the doctors were terribly concerned about my life. I was raced up to Princess Margaret hospital in an ambulance, had surgery and during the midst of my recovery attended school for a few weeks in the hospital.

The day I arrived home from hospital after being there for quite a long time and being very sick, I walked in our front door, I ran to our side patio sliding door, looked out at our dog and sobbed my heart out.

I was home.

No longer in hospital.

I was safe.

I was secure.

I was in my most happiest of places.

This afternoon, I walked in our front door after four days of being unexpectedly in hospital and the memory of when I came home from hospital came flooding back. I walked around my space, my home, my people and I had that most overwhelming feeling of comfort, security and strength. I was home.

I’m okay, it was a random and unexpected little hospital stay, but the last few days away from my people have reinforced the why of our next season.

Legacy, is not about the mansions that we build or the inheritance that we leave for our loved ones, it is all about creating safety, security and a home.

The greatest legacy we can leave on this planet, is creating a home, that creates a space of encouragement and acceptance for the people that inhabit it.

Kind words of encouragement.

Soft rebukes that create strong boundaries.

Animals and plants, flowers and candles.

Smells, soft furnishings, collecting memories from around the world.

Experiences shared around a table marked and worn from our cutlery.

A home.

Wood that is worn through by feet being perched comfortably whilst sitting on the lounge. Leather seats that remember the shape of the home dwellers.

Personal artwork that evokes truth and beauty, reminding us of the beautiful days we made or collected it.

Soup pots, worn through from the stirring and baking.

Tea cups chipped as our children learn to pack them away awkwardly.

Lego pieces under feet, pyjama’s worn through with holes in unseen places and fridges that make funny noises that only you have noticed.

A pet that knows the sound of your car before you’ve turned the corner, rugs that are worn bare as we walk them in the night time during sickness.

Our home.

It is the legacy that is worth fighting for. It is a legacy in the making as we create a space for encouragement and sustenance.

Our home should be the safest place on the planet, that encourages life and daring greatly.

Yet accepts and makes a grace space for our imperfections and challenges.

Where the tone is always forgiving and the words are intended always to believe the best in every situation.

This is the greatest legacy we can leave on this earth.

An environment that satisfies even the greatest critic and overwhelms the doubter with courage.

As our children grow from toddlers to children, then tweens to teenagers, young adults to mothers and fathers. My greatest passion will be creating a home that they will always feel comfortable to live out their destiny with courage and acceptance.

This will be my greatest symphony.

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A cure for narcissism

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The current generation is now been named the selfie generation. I sit right between generation x and y. There is now a whole cultural group of people who spend so much time looking at them selves, thinking about themselves and talking about themselves, that they don’t realise the extremism of their age.

Narcissism is the next step beyond selfishness. A narcissist has no capacity to have empathy for another’s story. Every situation they find themselves in, they have the remarkable capacity to blame the other person in the scenario. The inability to say sorry, or see something through a lens that is not tainted by their own expectations.

Narcissism is one of the greatest risks of our age. We are teaching a whole generation of children to go out and get whatever they want. We are teaching complete focus on oneself, on ones own needs and on ones wants. The internet and the over saturation of information has created this giant vacuum of self promotion and the depth of character and empathy is lost in its void.

A narcissist will do anything they can to get their own way, not worrying in the slightest about where that leaves the people in their wake. The problem with our current generation, unless we teach them, they will grow up believing everyone owes them something. That they deserve to get what they want and they need it now.

The greatest lesson we can teach our children is that character is developed in living our lives to help another. Every time we teach our children to look outside their own perspective, every time we tell them that they will have to wait for that toy, every time we tell them no, we teach them to live beyond themselves. When we show them intently that they indeed have the most beautiful life, yes that comes with its own challenges and heart breaks. We also need to show them the difference between our privilege and the lives that other children live. Not in an intense, you should be grateful tone, but an inspired, you can make a difference one. Teaching our children the beauty of empathy and compassion. Teaching our children to live lives of mercy and grace.

Our pursuit of legacy with our new business Maximus & Liberty is to break the cultural norm that we can get everything we want now! We want to teach our children about children in other nations, children in our nation of Australia that have nothing. Talking about stories where children who wake up in a tent on the streets in our city. Kids that grapple with the thought of finding somewhere warm to sleep, where they are safe, finding something nourishing to eat, doing something that is fun like surfing, a hobby, somewhere where they are equal to all in the ocean.

We want our kids to know that their namesake is to live a life of strength (Maximus) and freedom (Liberty) is not a privilege that all children are born into. We want to build a legacy that is beyond our own wants and needs, that helps and creates opportunities for people who don’t have much.

Are you afraid that you are a narcissist?

Then start to give away your stuff. Your time. Your privilege. Your intellectual property and don’t expect someone to credit it. Start to give away those things that are closest to you. Think of a legacy that is beyond you and those closest.

Measure how many times this week you think about yourself and your own needs in comparison to another’s?

I’m not writing this, saying we as a family have it all together. We are far from this. I personally worry about what people think of me. I often spend most of my day thinking about myself but we are aiming to create something that challenges our whole family to leave a legacy that lasts.

We are also calling you all to think about what legacy you are leaving. We are hoping that our not for profit business doesn’t just sell surfboards, stand up paddle boards and more, we are hoping it changes culture. We are hoping for revolution.

How are you impacting the current selfie generation?

How are you teaching those around you to think beyond themselves?

These are the questions we are asking ourselves.

Join the Legacy,

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