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How To Get Unstuck?

We all get stuck. Moments and seasons when we cannot get clarity and see beyond today. In our businesses, communication and life strategies.

I think that is why New Years Resolutions get such a bad reputation because they belong in the land of “being stuckness”. Change is hard, reframing mindsets is even harder and then add to the mix negativity, bullying and good old self-esteem.

Would you like to get unstuck?

“Don’t ever let anyone ever make you feel like you don’t deserve what you want.” – 10 Things I Hate About You

Desire is a powerful emotion both for the positive and negative parts of our lives and often we get stuck in the realms of our dreams because we become disappointed when we have been hoping for something and it has not been realised.

Over the last fourteen years, I have asked myself a series of questions that have helped me reform my perspective and shift into the new season. Does that mean it has been easy?

Nope, Nah, doubt it!

Change is powerful but it is painful and unless we uncover the parts of our today that are locking us in a holding pattern we cannot access the momentum needed for the new.

“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbour. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain

A simple sentence has been repeating over and over in my heart lately. If we keep doing the same things we have always done and we are expecting a different result, that is insanity.

The thought of setting goals and re-hoping again for the new year can be hard but is it just as hard as staying stuck where you are?

The best way you can move forward is to take the time to process, let go and find courage for your new tomorrow. Writing is a powerful way to do this exact thing.

I have designed a book that includes these questions and the process I have done now for 14 years. It includes articles to help you process, let go and dream again. It is called NEW DAYS and can be bought in a download version for $9.95 and also a printed book version for Australian residents for $19.95 including shipping.

If I can give you any advice right at the beginning of this holiday season, take the time to reflect and reclaim your future this New Year. If you are ready to explore a little and then begin again, this date with yourself was made just for you.

We need to be honest with ourselves for this to work.

Here is how this vision book works:

Print off these pages and find a favourite pen.

Get a drink that makes you smile (coffee, wine, tea, apple cider, ginger beer or a milkshake).

Set your atmosphere to a quiet and reflective space (Candles, music or people/ cafe/ buzz/ city life).

Turn off your phone. (like really, no Facebook, Instagram or Pinterest).

Start by saying thank you for the year that was and open your heart up for new inspiration for the year coming.

Then dive in.

You inspire me already.


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The year is not over, what did you promise to yourself.


Three years ago in the midst of the crazy aftermath of giving birth to my first child, I pulled out five note cards and wrote down intentions for five areas of my life.

  1. My Family
  2. My Purpose
  3. My Community
  4. Womankind
  5. Those who don’t have much

They were pinned up on my vision board above my computer and I muddled through the massive life change of leaving my job, my vocation and picking up the Job of Novice Mum.

I was terrified. I wrote big, audacious intentions that I wanted to do something with my years at home with little babies. I didn’t want to fade away, lost in a pile of nappies and wipes but at the same time I wanted to be present as much as possible to the fulfilment of my miracle of Motherhood being realised.

One of those big ideas on my intentions list for “My Purpose” was to run a creative retreat for women just like me. To have the courage to step out and create an event, that I would want to go to. An event that I needed.

A few days after I came home from this event realised, I was overwhelmed. I was scared, I was full of fear, “was it enough”, “did people like it”, “was it safe, was it welcoming, was it okay.” Questions that we all ask ourselves about most things in life, but when we step out and create something that you haven’t seen before, something that is original and full of your heart and personality, it is deeply vulnerable stuff. I had people asking for next years dates, I had sponsors offering to fund the next one. It was actually really scary.

As I sat there thinking about the most amazing stories that had transpired, I looked up on my dream board and pulled down those five cards. One by one, I put a line through all the things that had actually come to pass over the last few years.

I had intentions and I put them into action. They were focussed on a bigger purpose and I just had a go. I gathered a team, I looked for like hearts, I prayed, I worked hard. Together a group of like minded women, created a space were there was little competition and comparison, there was huge amounts of grace and it was breathtaking.

The funny thing is as I sat and looked at this dream realised, I thought deeply about my intentions for this year. I had just two things that were my big goals for this year. The first one to lose the weight I have gained with two babies in three years and also to publish my manuscript “Dear Single Self” for women over 25 who are single.

I sat there very soberly thinking even though this amazing event had transpired, the year was not finished yet, I haven’t achieved my two big goals for this year.

Then on Sunday the message at church that said this;

“Turn good intentions into great actions by having a big purpose, giving a big effort & serving a big God. Just do it.” Haydn Nelson. (here is the podcast of this message)

Monday morning hit and I was out exercising again, I have cut sugar and wheat out of my diet once again. I have opened up my manuscript and am ready to send it nervously out to more publishers.

Both of these big intentions are such vulnerable parts of my life. My hands are shaking as I write this blog. This year is not over though and I will keep moving towards the promises I made myself in my Change Reflection Pages.

What did you promise yourself this year?

What did you say that you would do?

I am here to tell you that the year is not over yet.

It is not too late to have another go and to rise again strong. If you wrote out your Change Reflection Pages, pull them out and have another read.

Just do it!