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Place: Bed

Poison: plunger coffee

Favorite things: Max just slept through the night!!!

I am a little excited and am wide awake because Max just slept through from 8pm last night till nearly 5am this morning.

I am alive, I have had longer than 4 hours sleep…

So I picked up the book we are reading for our connect group at the moment ‘Real marriage’ and am so challenged about the chapter on friendship.

I think social media has completely warped our view of friendship. Making us believe that a few comments on some status updates, a bit of stalking from afar via our timelines, some quick catch ups over 140 characters or less and we have deep relationship.

It’s so wrong.

This chapter is also showing me that we truly can’t have hundreds of friends.

We can have hundreds, even thousands of acquaintances, but the word friend speaks of honesty, deep relationship and comradely doing life together.

Honesty is something I so appreciate in friendship but it takes a lot of time for me to accept it.

Trust and rejection have been major parts of my journey, so to hear criticism and honesty from a friend who I haven’t felt deep encouragement and love from is difficult.

However I long for honest friends. In fact in my new season I am truly seeing who my true friends are. When I can’t meet people on their terms anymore. The friends that are still there despite my inability to phone them everyday or write to them or coffee with them as often.

I have found that the people I thought were my friends from my working days, who haven’t even seen Max yet and he is 11weeks old now, truly were just acquaintances and that is okay.

Releasing seasons to embrace new ones is a skill many don’t learn in life.

I want to be a student of life and learn the lessons required quickly.

Living in regret and dishonesty, not being real about your true state of affairs is a awful place to exist.

Proverbs 27:9 ‘Ointment and perfume delight the heart, and the sweetness of a man’s friend gives delight by hearty counsel.’

The word hearty here means honesty.

Are you living an honest life with your friends?

Can your friendships endure honesty?

Does rejection and trust issues stop you from allowing those closest too you to be honest?


It’s a daily step of surrender, but I think I’m getting too old for fake, trite conversation. I’m looking for friendship that can endure and weather deep seasons of honesty and encouragement.



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