Day 21. What have you been waiting for?

Is there anything you have been waiting for that you could actually do today?

You know what it is.

The first thing that came to your mind?

How about sitting down and making a plan towards doing it.

Like buying that house.

Parachuting out of that plane.

Going on that holiday.

Find one thing on your bucket list and start to make plans towards doing it this year.

20. Cafe conversation; self-care.

When I write the words ‘self-care’ what is the image that first comes to you?

A weird ritual from the self-help section of the Library?

Something a psychologist says in passing conversation to sound intelligent?

Self-care is simply a list of nurturing things that make you feel loved and well. Each and every one of us expresses love in a unique way and receives love in different ways as well.

As a single woman, it is easy to stop caring and loving ourselves because we are so busy trying to escape the feelings that often overwhelm us.

Write a list of things that make you feel loved. Here are some ideas:

Bath

Movies

Dinner with friends

Presents

Time

Jobs ticked off a list

Massage

Deep conversation

Then organise to have a coffee and conversation with a good friend about these things.

Sometimes all it takes is a conversation that matters to open up your heart to the possibility of loving differently and extravagantly.

How can you love yourself more?

19. Book a holiday.

When was the last time you took a decent holiday? Do you have a big pile of leave sitting in your HR office? Do you holiday often but always at the same place, with the same people?

My challenge is for you to plan a holiday to a far-off destination or, if you travel often and widely, to plan a stay-cation in your own city.

Read travel blogs, look at hotel reviews, find tours to go on, look into the history of the nations.

Get interested in something that is outside your everyday.

Recently we had a stay-cation in our own city and it was amazing. It is all about planning to do something that you don’t normally do and get yourself out of your comfort zone.

Plan an adventure. If you feel lonely and travelling by yourself is too much, book a cruise or a tour, so you can meet new people.

You know you want to.

Write to me and let me know where you are going, I am sure I will be a little jealous.