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five life hacks I have learnt as a mumma of two.

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We had a major emergency this morning.

The fire trucks were out, the police car sirens rang and my son sat with all his toy emergency vehicles with a cheeky grin.

We started the morning so perfectly, My Maximus leaned over as he was eating breakfast and said ‘Mister Maker…’ (I have become accustomed to answering to any title these days) ‘Mister Maker?’ I said slowly ‘Yes Max’. He replied ‘No, my name is Mini Maker.’

I shrugged my shoulders and played along. He smiled wryly and said ‘Mister Maker, can we make play dough please?’.

I felt like all my childhood mothering dreams had come true, it was our first play dough date together and I wanted it to be grand. Don’t worry we pulled that part off!

We gathered the ingredients and we thermo-played together. After we had made a big batch of blue and red, I left him happily making ice-cream and fire trucks and smooshing everything together again.

I went off to get ready as a friend was arriving soon for tea, when he ran in with a look of terror on his face. ‘Emergency, emergency, Mister Maker there has been an accident.’ I ran back into our kitchen to find red food colouring splashed over furniture, our floor, clothing and anything in near range.

Our morning had turned upside down with one sneaky visit to the pantry and the rest of my day has been scrubbing to try and lift food colouring from our of my mostly white and wood beach shack.

Despite mornings like today, I have realised I am learning a few life hacks to help keep our family bubbling and overwhelmedness at bay.

I have had a few people this last week ask me how I do what I do?

Maybe my instagram or blog has fooled you…I promise it’s not that pretty on this side of the fence.

In the midst of this though, I realised I have developed a few life hacks for anyone out there who wants to get more done and live purposed.

Here are 5 life hacks we have found that have helped us get more done and free ourselves up to live beyond our today.

1) The Between App My husband and I love this app, that is only for us two. It has a calendar, it has event reminders, it has messenger and it has moments we want to share. I was not that keen on having another something, face book, instagram, emails etc can be so overwhelming. This app though keeps everything we need to chat about and what is important between just us. It’s great and It’s free. Finding a system of communication whether you have children or not, whether it is for your flatmates or partner in a business is imperative to creating a platform for communication that works. A regular catch up, a process to communicate, really helps in keeping my days measured.

2) Email is my task list  Many people would disagree with me on this one, but it has been the way I have worked when running events of 20,000 or the daily life of my family. Having a task list that is current is imperative to keep up with what is important. I email myself tasks and I am vigilant in deleting everything that is not important, the first time the email hits my face. As I sit down to work, I delete emails first and unsubscribe from everything that is not important. Then I work through what is urgent and what is not. When people face book message me, or leave voice mails or ask me to do something for them, I always reply with ‘Can you please email me.’ Therefore, organisations that spam or over email me, really frustrate me and are immediately deleted.

3) House work everyday No matter what day it is, even when it’s a rest day, I do house work everyday. I do one load of washing a day, I get up have a coffee and then make all the beds and sweep the floor, put on the washing every morning. Eat my breakfast and then hang out the washing. Just as dusk is falling, I take the washing off the line and fold. Everyday. I never let it pile up and it helps create House work routine. I also cull regularly, most months you will find me taking at least one bag of clothes/ shoes/ bits and bobs to the op shop. I loosely have the rule, every time something is added to our house, something is given away. The less clutter, the quicker the cleaning and the less time it takes. I am ruthless with clothes and my kids toys. The less in my house, the more I am able to do in my business and opportunities that come my way.

4) I cook bulk At the moment I have four kilos of chicken roasting. When I cook, I do in bulk, so that we have left overs, we have meals in the freezer and we have plenty. I also cook chicken or meat that can be used over a few days in different kinds of meals. I do the same when anything is on special. If I see something really cheap when doing my shop (online is the easiest way to do this), I buy bulk. Whether its washing up liquid or toilet paper, washing powder, deodorant. I often have bulk of all of these products stored away. When I shop, I shop big. So everything is packed into my house in one go and I’m not at the shops everyday.

5) I am careful what I say yes and no too Lately I have been much more aware of how much time is wasted. It doesn’t mean I say no to everything, I am just really intentional when I do say yes. I say yes to mentoring and building my business, I say yes to times of purpose, but I don’t say yes to everything. I have days where we do nothing but hang around the house and potter and other days where we are on business. I am careful not to commit myself to more than one big thing a day. I don’t line up meetings and people back to back, I am careful. This is a balance of allocating time to write, allocating time to hustle and allocating time to rest. I don’t need to find time to do things, I am completely in charge of what I say yes and no too. Often in this area I hear people talking like they are a slave to their diaries. You are not. If there is too many family activities, cut one. If there is too much happening in your week change it. I say yes to fun. I say yes to hanging out with people I want to. I make it happen.

These are just a few short ideas on how I stay fully focused at home but also live a life of contribution outside as well.

Have a happy Thursday friends,

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Diary of a coke zero addict

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One week, one day and a few hours since having my last drop of Coke Zero…

The funny thing is even when I have dieted before I have thought that Pepsi Max, Diet Coke and Coke Zero were my friends.

You know a quick fake sugar fix.

A refreshing zing of caffeine.

I got to the point where I was a diet soft drink addict, who desperately needed a fix at 3pm each day.

This last week of eating whole foods has been shadowed with the pain of withdrawing from something that has been a big part of my daily life.

Your crutch may not be soft drinks but we all have something that undoes us in the midst of meltdown.

On this side of ‘one week aspartame free’ I am realising it is so much more about discipline than anything more.

When I tell my body no, even though everything in me wants to say yes, it makes me so aware that yes I can do hard things.

Even though all week I have longed for a flat white, I have chosen long black.

When I went to a premiere of a movie and everyone was eating icey ice and popcorn, I chose a small bag of nuts.

It’s not actually about what we do, its about what we personally need to discipline in our lives and see change come slowly.

I have been thinking this week, as energy has come flooding back into my days and my jeans have been getting looser.

You, Amanda, can do hard things.’

There are seasons when I just haven’t been able to get serious about this area of my life but I am choosing to make hard decisions in my everyday to see the benefits across every part of my life.

I have had many weak days this week, but every day I chose to fill my body with healthy, nutritious foods, the less I crave the manufactured and processed foods that I used to fuel myself with.

10 days in,

I am honestly so inspired to actually achieve the goals I set at the beginning of this year.

How about you?

What hard things do you need to face?

Determined,

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Learning to handle your emotions from the inside out

    Do you sometimes feel overwhelmed by emotions?

Sitting in a dark theatre this morning, at the Disney Pixar Perth Premiere of the movie ‘Inside Out’ I had a little ‘aha’ moment.

‘It truly is okay to feel and the connection between our processing of emotions and our childhood is so strong.’

The basic premise of the movie is to help children understand themselves from the inside out. Key characters of ‘Joy’, ‘Anger’, ‘Sadness’, ‘Disgust’ and ‘Fear’ kept me laughing, crying and sighing the whole movie through. (I am sure this movie must have been written by child psychologists because it was pure gold.)

As a huge advocate of imagination, my favourite character by far was Riley Andersons imaginary friend ‘Bing Bong.’ The ride through imagination land and the train of thought was a beautiful picture of the inner workings of our creative minds.

This movie is up there in my top five kids films, mainly because of its capacity to explain the complexity of our emotions and to teach our children it is okay to feel.

It is okay to feel sad,

It is okay to feel angry,

It is okay to feel joyful,

The life hack though is to find ways to transition between these emotions and create memories that facilitate them all.

Are you afraid of emotion?

Have you shut down beautiful, childlike responses because you fear others?

This film may just unlock something deeply moving in you, the capacity to make friends with the little people inside our minds. The perfect combination of movie for parents and kids together. My Maximus said it perfectly at the end of the film to his two little dates ‘Don’t worry if you feel sad, I feel sad sometimes too.’

And he is three. (Out of the mouth of babes.)

I am sure this one is going to play on repeat when it comes out on DVD.

Out in cinemas June 18.

Absolutely satisfied,

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seasons of hiddenness

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Lately I feel like hiding, not out of shame or brokenness, just because I feel like something deep is happening in my world and I don’t want to share it with anyone.

Have you ever had seasons like this?

Seasons where you just want to hide away and dwell in a safe place.

Seasons where you feel like playing hide and seek, but truly don’t want to be found.

I threw out a quick quote to a friend the other day, but as I spoke it I felt like words I have heard thousands of times before came alive in my heart once again.

“Do not despise the day of small beginnings.” Zechariah 4: 10

I have been saying to myself, do not despise these days of hiddenness. Long mornings covered in food, toys thrown around the floor, tantrums screaming. It is in this season of hiddenness that my character is being stretched, deepened and grown.

Seasons come and go, seasons change and when we are bold enough to dig deep and strengthen our character, the purpose for which we were designed shines through. Like a diamond in the rough.

“The greatest and most powerful revolutions often start very quietly, hidden in the shadows. Remember that.” Richelle Mead

These seasons help us to seek.

These times dig wells of resource that fill with water to sustain us in seasons of drought.

These places where we dwell, show our character and strength, to walk slowly through times where we are unsure of what tomorrow will bring.

“Every big castle was once started with a single block; despise no small beginnings. A little step taken every day builds up the hope of greater accomplishments. Do something every day!” Israelmore Ayivor

Our world celebrates a now culture but it does not commend character.

So often I watch someone declaring something they believe in yet their comments and actions reveal truly who they are.

I kind of think maybe they didn’t allow the hidden times to shape them.

Maybe they wanted to escape those moments.

Maybe they were given a spotlight that didn’t hold them accountable to their character.

Maybe they got impatient and didn’t feel the depth of the season that was forming them.

Purpose is built in quiet.

It is not given in the spotlight of applause.

I am not interested in success. I am motivated by contribution.

My life will not be measured by how many people clap and put me on a pedestal, my life is measured by character, obedience and accountability.

Whether I see this in my today or tomorrow, I am learning to love the secret place.

The seeking place.

A warm, sense of knowing that I am exactly where I am meant to be, learning about who I am becoming, shaped by hard decisions not opportunities.

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Be the hero not the victim

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Lately I am becoming more aware in my life when I am playing the victim card.

Today marks the beginning of June and once again I am marking a month to bring change into my days. From the first till the 31st of this month I am intentionally choosing to eat whole foods rather than filling my life with fuel that is full of preservatives, that have been over produced and manufactured.

I am eating whole, rich, natural foods;

Meat, vegetables, nuts, water, fruit for the month and eliminating dairy, carbohydrates and anything that is processed.

By no means have I walked into today thinking it is going to be easy. I am also attempting to run the city to surf again, which is in twelve weeks time.

Big goals for me personally that require focus and effort.

This morning I woke and had a glass of water with lemon before I substituted my flat white with a long black. I ate my eggs and bacon minus the toast and then went for a six kilometre walk.

All of this may sound terribly boring to you, but for me this is my greatest weakness. Every time I realign how I eat and exercise I fail.

Today as I started to walk, old tapes began to play in my head. Tapes that told me I would fail.

‘Why am I trying to do something again?’

‘This is stupid.’

‘Why bother.’

‘This is just your lot in life.’

‘You are no good at excercise.’

They bombarded me every step of the first twenty minutes of my walk.

Then they quietened and optimism started to take their place.

‘You have done this before and yes it is difficult but it is so worth it.’

Then a very quiet but certain voice said this…

‘Stop playing the victim and start playing the hero.’

I felt quite shocked at this statement but it got me thinking, how many times do I play the victim and blame everyone else for the present problems in my life?

No matter what area of change we are desperate to initiate, when we access the challenge from a place of being a victim rather than a hero in our own story we fail before we even begin.

So June 1, hello.

30 days of eating wholesome, nutritious food.

No fads, just a period of time to mark and set a goal to bring health and wellness into my everyday.

Starting to run again post pregnancy even if I only run for a few minutes at a time.

I am determined once again to play the hero in my own life not the victim.

I am not going to blame others for this area of weakness in my life, I am going to bring my best and try.

Thirty days really isn’t that long.

What area do you want change in?

Wanna be a superhero with me and no longer the victim?

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