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Nostalgia

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One of the greatest hindrances to progressive leadership is nostalgia.

We find something that works and then flog that dead horse till we are dragging it up the mountain.

I am a great believer in tradition.

I am a great fan in reflection and learning lessons from my past but I am also realising that this can easily turn into nostalgia.

It is a liar. It is a selective thinker. It is easily convinced that everything was perfect, when it was far from it.

Nostalgia helps you remember the beautiful, lovely moments of success and forget the pain, stretch and chaos it took to get you there.

If you want to be a leader that brings change and leans into the new, you need to flush nostalgia out of your system.

Traditions are brilliant, lessons we have learnt from the past necessary, but doing the same thing you have always done will always get the same results.

If you are using the same systems as you were 10 years ago everything has changed, (in the last 10 years, facebook, twitter and instagram have completely changed the way the world communicates). Social media has brought new words, new customs, new problems in with it. Therefore systems and processes must change with the crazy changing landscape of society.

If you are singing the same songs from 5 years ago, in a leadership context, you are stuck in a moment.

If you are reading the same books,

Writing the same sermons, with the same jokes and the same themes,

Speaking the same language,

Wearing the same clothes, from the same shop, that you bought 5 pairs on sale a few years ago,

Sitting in the same seat, in the same cafe, drinking the same coffee…

I would guess some of your leadership outlook and strategy is stuck in a nostalgic moment.

I love routine, I love drinking tea and lighting a candle and pursuing truth but I need to continue to remind myself what CS Lewis wrote

‘There are far better things ahead, than those we leave behind.’

Are you stuck in a moment?

Then innovate something.

Today.

Speak soon

Amanda

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your unique

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I started an online creativity course with Brene Brown this week. One of our exercises was to write down three things that we would like to learn or get better at throughout this course. Three creative things that we would actively allow ourselves to practise, no matter the outcome.

One of my three was photography.

This last Christmas my husband bought me a great camera, but so often I stop myself from using it, because one it’s easier to just pick up my phone and two because I have so many friends who are amazing photographers and I kind of feel like a try hard. (vulnerable moment right here)

One main reason why I endorse and love creativity so much is because it always brings out our unique.

There is a way that we see the world, that no one else does.

No one else has the same eyes, the same perspective, the same story and therefore everything we produce is unique.

Even if we have gotten the idea from somewhere our reproduction is always different.

Yesterday I jumped in the deep end. My mum runs a home for women who find themselves pregnant and in a place of vulnerability.

It is a beautiful home, that Max and I often visit to just hang with these brand new Mums, who are staying there finding a place to plant themselves and their new little family has some support to thrive.

Every time I hang there I find great perspective.

Strength, hope, potential, struggle…The stories the walls of that home holds.

Back to my story, one of the new Mums asked me to take some photos. (It’s funny when you make a private decision about something, opportunities quickly arise).

With permission from the beautiful Mum, here are a few of my favourites from yesterday.

I am learning that even when we just have a go, our unique comes to the fore.

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mummy and jasmine

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What’s your unique?

Make a decision to explore it this week.

Speak tomorrow

Amanda

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Others opinions

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How easy is it to judge others?

How easy is it to think you know better and know what’s going on in their worlds?

I think social media makes it easier than ever before to judge, criticise and blame others.

You know what I find so difficult? Is that Christians are often the worst.

We find ourselves on high pedestals and often fall harder because of this pious place that we locate ourselves. Thinking we are living a good, productive, holy life.

I am not immune, I have sinned and fallen short.

7 1-5 “Don’t pick on people, jump on their failures, criticize their faults— unless, of course, you want the same treatment. That critical spirit has a way of boomeranging. It’s easy to see a smudge on your neighbor’s face and be oblivious to the ugly sneer on your own. Do you have the nerve to say, ‘Let me wash your face for you,’ when your own face is distorted by contempt? It’s this whole traveling road-show mentality all over again, playing a holier-than-thou part instead of just living your part. Wipe that ugly sneer off your own face, and you might be fit to offer a washcloth to your neighbour. Matthew 7: 1-5 Message.

Oh wow.

What can I say after this?

Personally, one of the biggest downfalls of judgement in my life, is that I fall prey to worrying and being consumed with others opinions.

When I have heaps of opinions about other people, I fall prey to the reaping of this thought pattern in my own world.

The more I worry about what other people think, the more I judge what others are doing.

It goes the other way as well.

The more I judge people, the more I worry about others opinions.

It is a Ferris wheel of emotion and guilt. It is a terrible place that I feel stuck and want to get off the ride as soon as I can.

I found this quote this week and it is everything that I want my life to be about these days…

‘I want to be around people that do things. I don’t want to be around people anymore that judge or talk about what people do. I want to be around people that dream and support and do things.’

Amy Poehler

This means for awkward conversations, when you say ‘Sorry I don’t want to talk or be like this’. It means for stricter blocking and unfollowing on social media, it means for shorter coffee catch ups with some people.

I don’t like politics

I don’t like gossip covered in the honey of ‘debriefing’

and I am far from innocent.

I want move mountains, I want to see people set free, I want to make a difference.

None of these are possible when I spend my days judging others and hiding in the shadow of worrying what other people think of me.

Tomorrow.

Smile

Amanda

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Passion Illuminates!

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I had a Skype mentoring session this week with a blogger and I came away from it focused and full of clarity.

That’s what I love about openly sharing what you have learned about something, you never walk away poorer.

Creatively I want to help others, I have no problem telling anyone the lessons I have learnt from this blog and writing, because it always builds me.

I remind myself why I started this project.

I refocus myself on what matters.

As I encourage others to live an inspired life, I become more inspired.

When you compete, compare and greedily hold back your lessons from others, you start to live a more bitter and smaller world.

In this session on Skype I was talking about routine in blogging, finding your audience and clarity about your purpose.

I gave the writer the following advice;

1) Make a regular commitment to what days you are going to publish and write. It builds your audience and creates a routine to when your reader is coming to your website.

2) Clarify your audience. Write a paragraph about your reader. Who is it that you are writing to? Do a little drawing, a brainstorm, a word cloud about your target audience. This will bring a clarity and passion to your writing. When you are focused, you will bring your best.

3) Create themes, that clarify your values. Recently I have brought themes into my week. The photo shows them below.

These themes have helped me so much in my focus, passion and clarity. They are my values for this season and they provide great impetuous for my writing.

These three points can help you in any creative pursuit you have.

Is it in decorating your home?

Is it in your daily devotions and journaling?

Is it in your song writing?

Painting?

Business?

When you find your passion and bring clarity to your process you will burst with inspiration.

Speak tomorrow

Amanda

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The thief comparison

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Comparison is something that eats away at our hearts slowly.

It is a thief that steals our joy, peace and promises for a better tomorrow.

When we spend our days comparing ourselves to one another we don’t allow ourselves to discover who we truly are.

I grew up the daughter of an identical twin.

Over and over, season through season, we watched our Mums struggle with comparison and competition.

They navigated its poison well, but I am still so aware of the difficulty it imposes.

Yesterday I started an online course with Brene Brown. I have been a little addicted to her writing this last year and I stumbled across this course and decided to have a go.

It is all about living a wholehearted life and allowing creativity to inspire and heal those parts of us that have been suppressed and broken.

The course walks slowly through the book I finished a few weeks ago called ‘The gifts of imperfection’.

Two of the exercises we were given today was to draw a self portrait (mine is above), writing a few words beside it about what we believe about ourselves.

Then another exercise was to write down our creative wounds, scars that have held us contained in our creativity (I went back to a day in my journal that I missed and reclaimed that little blank page of failure). We were to write in red pen words that have impacted us from our upbringing. Words that have been spoken over our lives and our creativity

Some of my words were;

Too much

Too loud

Too fat

Too pushy

Too messy…

Things that had been spoken over my life that caused me often to compare myself with others as I created.

As much as I love blogging, it is like a double edged sword. The comparison to others online, the negative criticism, the competition, so easily can take over and affect my output.

Brene asked us to paste over those scars with bandaids and then write words of recovery and belief in their place.

I wrote words like

enough

strong

leader

loved

purposed

and more.

It is amazing how much comparison robs us of our peace. It is a thief. It steals from our today and plunders our tomorrow.

What are you spending your days comparing yourself to?

Mummy bloggers?

The type of prams others have?

The house you live in?

The job you have?

Someone’s instagram account?

When we live in a place of constant comparison we are paralysed from making changes that are necessary to live to life of creativity and inspiration we were designed to.

You are a creative being, even if you don’t believe that you are. You were created in the image of the most amazing Creator.

Maybe you need to do a couple of these exercises as well and post them in your 365 journal together.

I am scared and excited about this 6 week course I have now embarked upon.

I hoping to embrace my imperfections and continue along this inspiration journey of 2014.

See you tomorrow.

Amanda

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