Posted on 4 Comments

her story is our story

bethanyLet me introduce Bethany;

My friend, a young, passionate woman I have mentored and known personally for many years. The last two years have seen radical change in her life. She started a blog two years ago Not All Who Wander.

Capture readers have read her story here in many different ways, but today I have asked her to write a guest post about a real story, an everyday story from Greece, where she is working with women who have been trafficked into prostitution.

Her story is our story.

Be prepared to be wrecked.

signature

 

 

 

 

bethFor the past two months I have been in Greece working with churches and aide organisations. For the past two weeks I have been in Athens teaching English and documenting the stories of Refugees from Afghanistan, Iran, Iraq, and Syria.

I am a story teller, a bower bird collector of human tales, a seeker of truth and I have been on a journey that has changed my life.

I have heard stories of boats being turned back to sea and people left to paddle with their shoes, I have met a teacher who has lost his whole family and remains on The Taliban’s wanted list for daring to bring education to village children in Pakistan, I have seen the scars left from bullet holes on a mans head who took shelter with an American soldier in Iraq.

I have cried. I have prayed. I have felt guilty for never caring to know. I have planned the ways I want to help. Ways to help when I get home, when I have more control over the variables. When it is safe.

Wednesday last week my time in Greece had come to an end, I was leaving the next day. I had my stories, I had my pictures, I would do with them what I could.

And then it happened, a woman, my friend walked in with a baby on her hip and told me there was one more girl who wanted to tell her story, I wasn’t prepared, I almost said no.

How could I have said no?

fatima-01

It was her birthday, 24 years old, a year younger than me; a refugee from Afghanistan who had travelled across three countries in the back of a truck with 17 other people, no food or water, and then boarded a boat to Greece.

Once in Greece her smuggler locked her in a room and told her he wouldn’t let her out until she gave him all her money (she had saved 16,000Euro), she was free’d into the streets of Greece with nothing.

Over the next five years her husband had formed a heroin addiction and left her with three children, two under the age of two. After he left she was kicked out of the room they were renting.

For 2 months she lived in a park with nothing but a blanket to call her own, she would often be arrested by police for living there and then released the next day completely unheard when she asked for help from them. She now lives in a basement room where her baby gets sick from the mould and she pays the same amount each month as a whole apartment would cost if she had the right tax number to rent herself.

She has no food and no money for diapers or baby things. To try and make rent she wakes up every day and searches through the trash from 5am, hoping to find things to sell. She does not make enough; she is racking up a debt to the owner; soon she will be kicked out again.

“When I ask people for help, the men tell me they will help me only if I do something for them.” she looked me in the eye.

“Do you understand?” she asked.

I understood. We were living in the red light district, more than ever, I understood.

“I heard that you were here and I have come to you because nobody else will help. Please can you help me?”

Without thinking I heard myself promising I would help her.

Three generous friends, a bunch of flowers, a hamper full of baby items, and a purse full of money later, and we stood singing her happy birthday.

“This is the best birthday I have ever had,” she said. I couldn’t fathom that either.

We swapped contact details and I watched her leave. I was completely wrecked. I had not done enough. I could never do enough. I get to walk away. I get to go home, she doesn’t. Her children don’t.

And so I didn’t.

Myself and six people from my team of 17 decided to cancel our flights and stay for 10 more days to make good on my promise to help.

Over the next two days we met with her twice and yesterday we went to see where she was living. We now know she wants to learn English and Greek so she can get a job and her children can get an education.

Tomorrow we are going to a real estate agent to find her an apartment and rent it for her so she can come to English and Greek lessons and not have to spend her days searching through the trash.

But the story does not end there. It does not end with her, it does not end with me, the story can continue with you. And so I will extend the same invitation to you that she originally extended to me.

“Will you help me?”

Renting a house requires more money than I have, and maybe more than you have, but it is not more than we have together.

You can be part of the story by donating below or by sharing this post and extending the invitation to your friends.

Smile often,

Bethany
Written June 9th 2014, Greece.

(Photo one of Beth by Ellie Youngs, Photo of Beth in Warehouse by Ely Terriquez, third Portrait photo by Kirsten Sejersen)

To all my readers here on Capture30days.com, you can contribute straight to this family’s situation today through Paypal and all monies will go straight into this situation.








Posted on Leave a comment

Breathe in, breathe out

20140607-212006-76806151.jpgWell the time has come where my two year old has decided going to bed is the worst idea in the world.

Until three days ago, our routine was slick and I could get him to sleep in less than five minutes.

Then something changed.

His obsession with fire trucks maybe, his awareness of the world around him grew or a growth spurt…

Something changed, I know not what…and oh have we battled.

Last weekend in church the message was so great, it was all about living below our stress lines in life and what fills and drains us.

I walked into this week not feeling stressed at all and will walk out of it feeling like I am redlining.

Tonight after a two hour battle to get him to stay in bed I felt like a complete failure as a parent.

Yesterday I didn’t even want to write I was so deflated.

Then a few minutes ago, ready to give up my writing, (who can write when all you feel like doing is crying) I remembered my list.

What drains you?

What fills you?

Last Sunday after the message I wrote a list with my husband of what drains us and what fills us.

I started to recall those things on my list.

Flowers; a friend bought me flowers yesterday and my house has little pots of flowers all around.

Coffee and a magazine; Charl (my husband) bought me a magazine this week on his way home from work.

Time alone; charl is on nightshift and although it kinda sucks, I am in fact revelling in silence right now.

Writing; forcing myself right now and suddenly I am breathing deeper.

Worship music; check, tunes that bring life into my moments.

And my list went on.

Breathe in.

Breathe out.

Breathe in.

Breathe out.

My perspective of Mothers of toddlers has drastically changed.

Lord, grant me the serenity to accept the things I can’t change and to change that which I can.

Thanks for the reminder

Signing off, I have a movie to watch.

Speak tomorrow

signature

Posted on Leave a comment

Feel

20140604-125123-46283781.jpg

One of the hardest parts of being human, is allowing ourselves to feel.

I mean really feel.

It is easy to pull away, shut down and build up walls so we can’t be hurt ever again…

but what if we felt deeply?

What if we allowed ourselves to feel?

What if we faced the vulnerability of our weakness?

What if we admitted we weren’t perfect and we let someone safe in to those places of lack?

What if we were honest with ourselves?

Unless we admit our vulnerabilities, we cannot face them and bring strength to those areas.

I had an amazing counselling session once where I was so embarrassed and frustrated as a leader at the emotional highs and lows of my journey.

The counsellor wisely said ‘If you don’t experience those highs and lows then you are unable to express them through your creativity either. Life is full of highs and lows and authentic, brilliant creatives allow themselves to feel both…the problem is ‘how do you learn to process  your emotions and live healthily with them as a leader?’

It is this thought that has stuck with me many years later.

I spent many years trying to push down and not feel my emotions but then they would come exploding out without any notice.

These days I am allowing myself the freedom to feel, but doing my best to bridle their power appropriately and finding the right spaces and people to express them.

20140604-125934-46774552.jpg

Through prayer, through counsel, through learning to just be quiet, through music, through exercise, through fun…

Allowing myself to feel has been one of the biggest emancipations of my adult life.

The crazy thing is, when I was trying to shut down my emotions they came out anyway.

My pursuit of not feeling…always ended it crazy days of out of control emotions anyway.

As creative beings we were born to feel. Don’t be ashamed of the emotions that take over, find ways to process them and become more adept at expressing them in appropriate ways.

Feel.

Speak tomorrow

signature

Posted on 2 Comments

My ode to Maya

maya-angelou-learning-quotes-wallpaper

One of my favourite authors Maya Angelou, died this week after living a large life of communication, advocacy and overcoming insurmountable odds.

Born in St. Louis, Missouri she lived a life battling racism, abuse and hostility. Post the trauma of being raped by her mothers boyfriend she stopped speaking for six years.

Coming from a past full of oppression, who would have predicted this young mute girl would end up penning 30 books throughout her life, including powerful poetry and become a famous playwright.

20140531-182304-66184389.jpgI believe it just proves, the power of the human spirit to overcome any circumstance and love beyond our past.

“She was a warrior for equality, tolerance and peace. The family is extremely appreciative of the time we had with her and we know that she is looking down upon us with love,” her family said.

On Friday after news of her death, I called my local library and borrowed her first autobiography ‘I Know Why The Caged Bird Sings.’

I am currently immersed in the early years of her life as I read this riveting book.

One of my favourite quotes of hers is this;

I’ve learned that no matter what happens, or how bad it seems today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow. I’ve learned that you can tell a lot about a person by the way he/she handles these three things: a rainy day, lost luggage, and tangled Christmas tree lights. I’ve learned that regardless of your relationship with your parents, you’ll miss them when they’re gone from your life. I’ve learned that making a “living” is not the same thing as making a “life.” I’ve learned that life sometimes gives you a second chance. I’ve learned that you shouldn’t go through life with a catcher’s mitt on both hands; you need to be able to throw something back. I’ve learned that whenever I decide something with an open heart, I usually make the right decision. I’ve learned that even when I have pains, I don’t have to be one. I’ve learned that every day you should reach out and touch someone. People love a warm hug, or just a friendly pat on the back. I’ve learned that I still have a lot to learn. I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.
Maya Angelou

Rest in Peace Maya.

You inspired hundreds of thousands.

You did good.

signature

Posted on Leave a comment

Finding your unique

anyway two

Today’s post on Green Couture in the series Winter Hues went live today. The series has been about interior design and creativity.

My post today is titled Find your unique and here is part of my article;

‘I live in a beach flat, that was built in 1972. We live ten paces from the ocean and our house is built completely underground.

There is a lot of unique in our little patch of Australia, but my favourite part of our shack are the elements that make memories of the life we have lived within it.

Our unique.

Simple little elements that we highlight to bring character subtly.’

To continue reading, join me over on Kate’s blog.

Also standby, I have been working on some amazing guest writers for the month of August as well, when my little miss V arrives.

Enjoy finding your unique!

Speak tomorrow

signature